how to get over your boyfriend / girlfriend

the hardest thing of our life is to go trough a relationship breakup whether it's with your boyfriend , girlfriend  or best friend , so you better be prepared for the consequences and assume your decisions.

first of all you have to reconsider your choice of breaking up , is it really worth it or is it just a an overreaction    ? you need to answer those questions by establishing a pros and cons list of your subject of breakup ;

if it's imminent or believe you have all reasons you need to proceed your break up then you can keep reading.

once you have faced your partner and done confronting , you will now need to change considerable habits in your life , start by removing everything that reminds you of your partner such as photos , belongings ...

then go to a calm private place and take a deep breath for 2 minutes and start remembering all those terrible moments you had to be even more sure about your decisions then remember that you deserve better and for this moment you need to stop thinking about your partner and start a new friend circle or practice a new activity to keep yourself busy , that's very important that you don't get much spare time to over-think the situation , your first goal is to accomplish 2 week without direct contact / meeting with your partner ;

after those 2 week you will begin to feel comfortable and painless

how to have a serious talk with your friend , boybriend , girlfriend or parent

we all have issue in our relationships , weither it's with a parent , friend , or a partner (boyfriend / girlfriend )
so we must know how to deal with those issue and initiate a serious conversation to cover all these issue positively , this articles  show DOs & DON'Ts of a serious talk

of course , you can always start with the famous "we need to talk" , but it's better to begin with a less dramatic sentence such as "there something i need to tell you" , then wait for an approval and don't just start it.

then you have to express yourself without direct confrontation and use diplomacy , avoid exaggeration , sarcasm and adjectives such as " you are ......." , "you always do...." , " you are so ....." instead you can use sentences like : "i feel you do...." , "sometime it looks like you .....", "is that true?"
you can also remember facts that have happened in your relationship for an explanation.

finally you have to thank the other person of having the talk whatever is the outcome, insist that it's the only healty way to fix things without damage

how to tell if your friend is taking advantage of you

friends are one of the most valuable things in life , but sometime we meet someone whom we think is our friend and is in fact , taking advantage out of us.

This article helps you spot those type of friends by various means , if most of these statements is true it's very likely that the person you hangout with is taking advantage of you !

• only makes contact or agrees to meet if he wants you for something
• refuses you calls / meetings to hang out with you when he's done using you
• if you feel your instinct that something is wrong , you better trust it
• if the persone reacts aggressivly when you act supecious about his behaviours
• you have a different friend circles
• tries to avoid you meeting his parents & friends
• ask for help and see if the person responds

remember that you can always talk about the issue in your relationships , that more likely would resolve it if your initiate a positive conversation free of judgment ( and adjectives ), you can say "it seems that you do..." and "i feel like you do...."  instead of "you always do ...."